Personally,
I've been in that position and I believe I still am.
When I give, I give sincerely but why is it that I feel sad after that?It's not a matter of giving too much or too little but why such melancholy feelings.
I tell myself this all the time: Whenever I feel that there is no giving in return, smile and omit all those bad feelings I have. Allah swt knows and credit is given when it is due.
However I also feel that there should be a mutual understanding and initiative should be taken in order to make the other party feel better. One can always say that he/she is committed in something (anything be it at work, sports, examinations and even relationship) but does he/she feels happy about it? Does he/she feel that the commitment given is all worth it?
For me it depends on the individual.
For examinations, it's really up to the individual. We can only do our best in everything and whatever that's being achieved there and then is a living proof of our hardwork,dedication and commitment.
For work, sometimes when we commit and give too much for the benefit of others, there are times when people forget to appreciate and often takes advantage of our kindness. That's sad!
In sports,
hmmm......I've played hockey with a team who is full of energy,confidence and fighting spirit. There are however a couple of black sheeps who feels that they need not do much for the team because others are doing it so why bother. This can be frustrating and I feel it all boils down to team work and not every man for himself.
In relationship,
I fear to give my comments on this. Love should be au natural. I am yes...committed to a relationship which I have been building for more than 18 months and I am finding ways on taking it into the next level, doing everything I can to make both parties happy.
However, I am also guilty of the fact that sometimes I feel that my other half is not doing enough. When this happens, I pray for forgiveness and that God gives me the strength and patience to withstand all odds. Against all odds, I continue to believe and learnt to forgive.
Then again, initiative should not be taught. Feelings are not taught, not bought and same goes for happiness. We can only sort them out and seek for them.
One can only wait and wait...patiently.
When was the last time I did something for myself which makes me really happy?
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